Today it’s a bit different story. It’s going to be long, I hope you guys can bare with me!
Once in a while I get a fan mail (thank you so so much, ….they are the true motivation to keep me drawings! ) , while back I got a question from this Japanese girl.
She wants to know how to make Danish friends in Denmark!
I always draw how lazy or silly I am, but!!!! This time maybe I could be her help.
It’s not like I am an expert counselor but I could advise her from my experience. And!!! You, a person reading this – whether you are Danish or none, if you have advice please feel free to write comments ^_^
In my opinion, making friends is not _that_ easy – unfortunately….not only in Denmark, but pretty much everywhere.
When I was in Japan I heard gaijins complaining it’s not easy to make Japanese friends. Same story, I heard it from South Korea, United States, Germany – people make a group with same language speakers, they don’t mingle with others.
It’s a language and culture comfort, that you just suit easily with same background people.
But, if you are living abroad and want to make local friends, you gotta break the ice.
Yes sometimes it’s not easy but need to suck it up and do it …
The beauty of living in Denmark is everybody speaks awesome English. Of course it’s the best if you can speak Danish to them, but if you are not familiar, still, don’t hesitate to speak English!
so, here is my strategy…
1. Break the ice, you gotta be the first to talk. The subject can be anything!
2. Try to use a humor. Good humor is power!
3. If you think there is a good chemistry, invite the person for a walk or cafe.
DO not invite right away, Danish people will freak out if the personal space or distance is too short. They think you are a creep. It takes time to break the ice. Say Hello or have small chats until you think the she is in a ‘safe zone’.
4. Be proactive.
In Denmark not many are interested in you as a foreigner… (at least, I don’t think so!?) so you have to approach to them. Join a club. Go to parties.
5. Be you.
If you get tired of being active and the ice-breaker, take a break. The most important is that you need to be you. Heck maybe you find someone to be relax (lazy) with you, and that’s really really hygge.
For those who don’t get my Apple Pen joke, here is the viral video I refer to.
Sesami Street Version (Japan official) , so cute and funny!